What is the purpose of a Napkin Ring?

I feel like sometimes I find folks on Instagram and I fall into a black vortex of investigation. Holly Holden is one of my latest new instagram loves! If you don’t follow her, you should do so immediately. I love knowing what is considered “proper” and “appropriate etiquette” if situations ever present themselves. Also, I think it is just great to get a little refresh of some basics, like how to address an envelope properly. Ya’ll need to sign up for her Mummy’s Monday Manners newsletter!

She recently was a guest on the Welcome Home podcast (another favorite) where they were discussing Holiday entertaining. The subject of napkin rings came up and I just had to share what she said about them - this is something I never knew!

Back in the day, folks would use one napkin throughout the course of the day (assuming to cut back on the hand washed laundry). After each meal, the diner would find their monogramed napkin ring and return their used napkin to ensure they were using the same napkin at the next meal.

I mean, who knew!?!? I just assumed it was a beautiful decor for the table and that it did not actually serve a purpose. In addition to that, she revealed that the utensils should never touch the napkin in a proper place setting. I am embarrassed now to look back on some of my favorite tablescapes and realize my faux-paus!

I am absolutely smitten with the idea of now giving out silver engraved napkin rings for wedding presents and baby presents! I’ve always thought they made great gifts but now knowing the history behind them, I think they make just THE most charming little presents!

Anyone have family heirloom silver napkin rings they use?

(all pics taken from The Washington Winter Show where I went all crazy on the poor lady selling these because I was so excited to see such a great collection)